threaten me? My response was calm, cool, and collected; perhaps it was the fierce Pathan in me which calmly stated I didn’t attempt to threaten him…I actually had threatened him and wasn’t afraid to carry out my threat…and that he needed to shut up and remember to treat me as his wife and not a domestic abuse victim.

That should have been my first red flag, but it clearly wasn’t… because I stayed in the marriage for six years because I thought we loved each other; at least I knew I loved him. All of this would change so drastically one day that would just make me re−question all the foundations of our marriage and make me wonder who the person was that I was actually married too.

Over the years the free−spirited soul that I was ended up